Self Harm

Do you at times just want to beat yourself up for
some silly mistakes?

And for some of you, self harm is not just beating
yourself mildly. You may be cutting yourself, biting your
nails till it bleed?

Be it self harming mildly or in a more extreme way.

I know that you are in pain.

And your pain is more extreme then the harm that you
are doing to yourself.

I am not going to be your usual counsellor to say that self
harming is bad and you should stop it.

Well on hindsight it is, but...

If I am going to say that, you would want to
do it even more right?

I believe its your defence mechanism in play.

Today, i would like to share with you a few defence
mechanism which you can explored.

1. Talk to a trusted friend.
It helps for some people when they can unleash
their anger. As a trusted friend, just be there.
Lend them your ears, your shoulders.

2. Crying it out. Crying is a form of therapy in itself.
We have a child in each one of us, I am a firm believer of
that. Society made crying for adults a taboo BUT you know
just how good it can feel to let it out.

3. Write a letter to yourself.
This may sound crazy but it works for me when I am down
and out. Write a letter address to yourself and just talk to yourself
and figure a way out to help yourself.

And guess what you can do after venting all your frustrations
on the paper?

THROW IT INTO THE BIN!

Yes! THROW your problem away!

Give it a shot, even though it will not magically just
solve your challenges, it can relieve a considerable amount
of emotional load for you.

4. Write To Somebody Whom You Do Not Know
If you would like to just let it out on to someone, someone
you do not know yet, you can write to me at: selfhelpmotivation@gmail.com

5. Ask yourself, how can I better handle this situation?
Is it worth your while to be upset? You definitely deserve
a better reception.

Cheers!
JY Chia
Your Self Help Motivator =)